Sexual purity when dating after divorce
I still thought boys were icky and I had no idea I liked girls, too. And most importantly, I didn't have a clue about sex.The church taught me that sex was for married people.Some of us have tried dating and been burned—confusion, rejections, sexual failure, breakups, or whatever else plagues our relationships.With all the pain, failure, and friction, it simply can’t be worth it, can it?They blamed their emptiness, loneliness, and joylessness on marriage instead of seeing that it was never meant to satisfy their deepest needs.There are lots of bad reasons to get married, and the worst is that we think he or she could be what only God can be for us.Instead of making marriage your mission, make it God’s global cause and the advance of the gospel where you are, and look for someone pursuing the same.
Nothing else is worth all the risks we take when we begin to share our heart with someone else.Unfortunately, I can't go back but I can give you this message as a culmination of my experiences: If you want to wait to have sex until marriage make sure it's because you want to.It's your body; it belongs to you, not your church. I'm now thoroughly convinced that the entire concept of virginity is used to control female sexuality. I would have sex with my then-boyfriend-now-husband and I wouldn't go to hell for it.We would have gotten married at a more appropriate age and I would have kept my sexuality to myself.